One thing I urge adults to unlearn is the stigma surrounding forgetfulness.

Perfect memory retention is rare. A faulty memory can be the result a host of mental illnesses, from ADHD to PTSD. It's not a sign that someone wasn't listening. I have a friend that has a four year gap in her memory due to trauma. I have another with poor short term memory retention because that's one of their autism symptoms.

Your brain can also trick you into misremembering things. I can't tell you how many times I've remembered putting my keys somewhere and unearthed them in a completely different place. I have to remind myself what my birth date is because I said it wrong once and now the wrong date is in my memory forever. I have to come up with mnemonics for birthdays, anniversaries, and events because my brain doesn't do numbers for some reason.

I see people bicker about forgetting a person's favorite food or what their mothers favorite color. I think it's important to forgive people who forget easily.

ok I normally reblog with maybe a couple ideas in the tags, but this one I have to add on to because it's so important.

My memory is shot to hell. Between a dissociative disorder, c-ptsd, neurodiversity and brain inflammation, my memory is really, truly terrible. I'm perfectly capable of forgetting my own age, what year it is, the birthdays of people I love, important events, what happened two minutes ago ... you get the idea.

I have strong boundaries around it now and people only get to stay close with me if they understand that this is something I literally cannot help. Yes, I write things down. Yes, I use a calendar. If something is important either to me or to someone I care about I do my best to make sure i remember.

But I mess up sometimes. Or less vital information goes astray. I can't literally keep notes on everything about every person and refer to them! So it's a case of love me, love the fact that I'm hampered by memory problems and I can't just switch that off.

I'm lucky to have amazing friends who understand this. But in the past I've been dragged over hot coals by people because I can't remember all the little details.

So I am asking you, if you know someone who forgets easily, be kind. Extend the same grace to them you'd want for yourself if you were struggling with something. Don't berate them, don't tease them (unless you're sure they're happy to joke with you about it.) And don't assume that forgetting something is a personal slight.

Memory problems don't mean someone is willfully ignoring something. It means they literally cannot remember. It has nothing to do with will or caring or anything else. Please remember that. Or if you're like me, write it down somewhere and try not to forget where.

please let jungwoo do his job 🤚

(sighs and opens up the false bottom in my drawer) it looks like i need to get a little silly again…

It's so unfair when my mutuals experience hardships, like they already follow me, that's enough suffering for one person

230701 - Encounter0914

Sometimes you're listening to a song and something clicks and you finally "get" a lyric (affectionate)

and sometimes you're listening to a song and something clicks and you finally "get" a lyric (derogatory)

Ball gown, 1840-41

Maker: Unknown

From the collection of Wien Museum

So I had to get nosy and do some research because It's never occurred to me that this kind of effect was possible in the 19th century (upon reading the origins I was like "Oh Shit That's what that is??").

Fabric is made up of basically two parts while being woven, weft (which goes side to side), and warp (which goes up and down).

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This dress is made of Shot Silk, so named because of how the weft bobbin of a different color is "shot through" the warp color while the fabric is being woven. The silk in the original post is probably "Dove silk", made of turquoise and magenta fibers which makes that striking iridescent grey color. It was popular all throughout the 18th century, especially in French fashions, and gained a popularity during the American Civil War (cotton production was disrupted and yielding smaller crops as the enslaved peoples involved with production of cotton were dealing with bigger fish to fry, like seeking freedom from slavery and trying not to die).

You might be more familiar with its use in cosplay spaces, specifically with One Disney Princess In Particular

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This fabric has so much potential in modern garment making, and I'm so shocked no one else has latched onto it for period pieces. Especially when we have documents suggesting that this technique has existed in Noble and Clergy circles since THE 700'S

Shot silk! What a concept!

@nonasuch

yes! shot silk/changeable silk is so pretty. I see it fairly often in late 50s/early 60s party dresses, usually in really intense green/blue but sometimes in pink/orange or blue/purple.

This is what my university uses for the stoles of graduation gowns. Arts get blue-green, engineering gets red-orange, and science gets yellow-vomit

Also, shot silks had a great popularity during the late 1840's to 1850's. Of course shot silk was used before and after, but I focus more on Victorian era clothing.